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Posted in Culture, Daily life, Media by lenina on March 7, 2007

yes, today is 07.03.07. Had some bad arguments with my BF today. I sometimes wonder if every relationship has arguments, and, if some people are more compatible than others, and, whether or not it matters :P

For instance, I don’t really mind arguments too much. Deep down, I’m not a very sensitive person, so if someone says nasty things to me, it tends to be water off a duck’s back. My BF, however, takes things much more to heart. Today he even suggested that we split up as we’re not compatible enough. Here are the differences between me and him:

  • me: workaholic, constantly on the go, constantly doing stuff. Him: laid-back, takes things easy, jack-of-all-trades, master of none
  • me: like my own company, have few but very good friends. Him: likes others’ company, very sociable, gets on with everyone, likes to have friends around
  • me: speak my mind, say what I think, insensitive in social situations, little empathy, don’t mind conflict. Him: likes pleasing others, hates conflict, likes being liked, likes helping people
  • me: focussed, achiever, wants to progress in life, good with money. Him: lives in the moment, enjoys every day, happy, bad with money
  • me: bossy. Him: controlling.

The problem is that I am quite happy with the way I am, as it’s brought me to a good place in life and I feel mentally, emotionally, and psychologically well. I don’t hate myself. I’m quite in tune with myself and for instance don’t think that there are things ‘wrong’ with me that need ‘fixing’ or ‘putting right’. I know I have my faults, but then everyone has.

The bottom line is that for me, arguments are part and parcel of a relationship but my BF thrives on harmony. He says things like, I don’t ever want any arguments again, it’s not good for the relationship. How can there be no arguments? Would he rather not have a relationship at all, just to avoid the arguments? I think this might be the case.

Also, today, or was it yesterday, Jean Baudrillard died. Reported by jetsam (who’s got me on her or his blogroll btw, must return favour soon!) and anaj. Note the list by anaj regarding the death of the author French thinkers. Maybe we should all digg her post :)

in fact, check out a search for Baudrillard on digg. The articles have been dugg quite poorly and a headline reads:

Jean Baudrillard Inspiration for the Matrix dies at 77.

There are also some other good articles summing up some of his work: one on the BBC, and one on the Herald Tribune website.

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  1. andraco said, on March 7, 2007 at 11:19 pm

    Hey Lenina, I am not happy with this post. first of all you are getting sentimental. You are writing about your feelings. (bad influence if friends maybe ;-) ) secondly I like you two. Both of you. So don’t hurt each other!
    Relationships can have arguments. But not all the time though. The harmony is important. Arguments are good to love each other even more than before. But too much arguments can kill the relationship…

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  2. lenina said, on March 7, 2007 at 11:24 pm

    Yes, the feelings thing is influenced by some sentimental friend in Edinburgh who has just split up with his girlfriend :P

    Don’t worry, all is well. I’m not the type to blog about private stuff anyway, so this was probably a one-off.

    If you are logged in to WordPress when commenting, your user name will link directly to your blog btw!

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  3. andraco said, on March 8, 2007 at 9:40 am

    I was logged in. you even can see my cool avatar.
    I’m off to work now. I am already late.
    Take care.

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  4. andraco said, on March 8, 2007 at 9:41 am

    But it still isn’t linked for some reason. Dunno…

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