How to Get Rid of Your Father
My father contacts me every year on my birthday. He sends me an email (even though I’ve told my sister to *not* give him my email address!) trying to ‘build bridges’, saying things like
We would really like to see you again – it’s been 10 years since we last saw you, I believe, at your sister’s wedding.
Here’s some news for you, dad: I’m not fucking interested. You were an asshole to my mother, and you were a mean, sadistic bastard towards me. You instilled in me a distrust and hatred of men, and, no, blood is not thicker than water.
/me deletes email
Funny that he contacts you. My father never contacted me (his wife would probably have forbidden him his dessert if he had) and when we finally met after about 10 years it was upon my own initiative. But ever since we met, all my ambiguous feelings have disappeared: There is nothing but indifference left, all of a sudden. There is neither anger nor interest.
I was always afraid he might die before we had made up. Now such thoughts do not bother me at all any more.
And btw – we did not make up. We just met and talked about next to nothing. As soon as we touched the more sensitive issues, we quickly found that we disagree profoundly.
i hate my fuckin da he is an asshole and needs to fucking get a real fuckin olife which isnt here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i hate my dad and every fryday he has poker night I FUCKING HATE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
my dad is shit fuck evry swearword in the world
i fucking hate my bastard of a dad. he used to be great up until i was like 7. god. i hate him so much. i pray to god that my mom will realize what an ass he is and leave him, but she wont, he makes too much money for her to do that. i wish he would get in a freak accident and die and i would never have to see him ever ever again.
hey i feel the same way with mine n that is how my mom is n even after a few times that he has hit me all she can say is he really loves you but she never seems to realize that shes wrong n that she needs to get rid of him because he treats everyone in our house like we are shit n i want rid of him so bad but have things ever got better between u and ur dad? if u dont mind my asking.
Omg I fucking hate my dad! He is such a fucking bitch! All he fucking cares about is himself! I hope he fucking dies cuz I fucking hate him!
ARAAARARARARARGGAGHHHHH my dads a dikkhed, hes a fukkin ugly bastard that doesnt know how to fukkin get a lyf! i hope he gets run over by a lorry, which then sends him flying into the sky and then he hits a helicopter, which then chops off his limbs, then he falls and hits his head so hard he dies
hello people. im glad i found this site because you know what my dad is the biggest bum in the world. he lets me my mum and my sisters down and he doesnt deserve to even breathe. i wish he wud pack up his things and get the heck out of our lives. if i never see him again it would be a blessing. biggest disappointment. I HATE YOU DAD AND IM NOT INTERESTED IN YU JUST DO US A FAVOUR AND F*** OFF!
Same here, I wish he would just die and leave my mum behind. Stupid dad is a gambler, cheats on my mum during the 7 year itch, and a spendthrift. Even now my poor sister is financing his car loans. God if you are hearing me, please uplift my mum and sister’s burden as well as my grandmother ( whom she has been pampering my dad for 50 old years) by striking a lighting onto his head.
i came on the net to find some instructions on how to make my mum see what a FUCKING ARSE HOLE my dad is and chuck him out and divorce him. but i can’t find any. has anyone got any suggestions.
From bronte in Marylebone,london.
i efen hate my dad im a grown guy im 16 years old and he treats me like a damn kid i wish he would just get the fu.. out of my life and burn in hell fuc..in bastard
Wow – ok I really do not like my dad he’s aggressive then a poor little sweet child, his mood swing are constant – from hugs and kisses to swearing and downgrading the shit out of you. Hes so fake! Then he only thinks about himself – just work (because he likes it) then comes home and sneers at her for being nothin – even though she takes care of 2 kids. He constantly calls her stupid and useless. Then he almost commited suicide because ‘work wasn’t working out’ what about his 3 kids (1.5, 6 and 20)? Is there something wrong with me? Or is he the problem?
* sneers at my mum
i want 2 get rid of my F. 1 more yr i hv 2 stay with him. Each nt before falling asleep i fear dat either he wil slit my throat or rape me.I hv 2 struggle 2 sleep.i m upset. i fear when i wil leave him & take a job den also he wil not leave me.He even doesn’t l leave my friends.I don’t want him 2 die but want dat i shouldn’t get 2 see him n everybody around wil hate him n think d same like me.
UUHGG I HATE MY DAD HES ALWAYS BEEN CHEATING ON MY MOM EVER SINCE THEY MET!!! THYE GOT GOT A DIVORCE OF COURSE! BUT HE HAS TO REAKIN LIVE WIT US CUZ HE HAS NO FUCKIN PLACE 2 GO! WE BOOO HOOO MY MOM SUFFERD ENOUGHT WIT U BASTRD I WISH HE WOULD JUST DIE!!! AND MY MOM BECAME SUCCES FULL WHEN HE DIED AND MY MOMS MOM AND DAD CAME TO LIVE WITH US AND WE WHERE ALL A HAPPY FAMILY!!!!!! AND IF MY SO CALLED DAD DIED
IT WOULD BE A HUGE BLESSING!! (I JUST HOPE GOD FOR GIVES ME FOR SAYING ALLL OF THIS ))
ITS JUST THAT I HATE HIM SOOO MUCH ! OH AND WHEN HE DIES I WISH THAT MY MOM WONT CARE
SHE WILL JUST BE HAPPY AND EVERYONE AROUND HER TOO!!!
Looks like I’m not the only one with daddy issues.
I hate my dad.
He left my family.
Started a new one with another woman. The woman he had an affair with I think. And I think he’s cheating on my step mum now.
He lies.
Squandered his money (which he inherited from my grandfather. All his other siblings got the same fair share but THEY managed to make money out of their inheritance. And can give their children (my cousins) comfortable lives and good education). so now I worry about uni fees and all. Which I know a lot of people worry about but there’s also a good sum out there whose parents foot the bill.
He’s a fucking prick who made my mum cry. Makes me cry. Makes my brothers cry. W e all hate him but I’m dependent on him for money. Can’t wait till I finish my studies and work and am standing on my own two feet so I don’t have to put up with all his bullshit.
He even had the gall to ask my mother for a loan.
Fucking prick is a self centered pretentious loser whose own family hates him.
I HATE HIM SO MUCH. he makes my life miserable. ARGH
I only ever cry for sad movies and books. The only other reason I cry is because of him.
When I was younger I contemplated things like suicide or running away but lacked the balls to do it. Now I’m older (17) and the end is near. The end as in the end of me living with him. I’m going to Australia to further my studies next year (just 5 months more!) then I’ll be out working and I’ll never look back.
I can’t wait for my new life to begin.
I hate my dad soo much I hate everything he as done honestly I hate him soo much I haven’t seen him 10 years that means no e-mails or telephone or anything but yet I hate him so much it makes me sick!.
But yet when the family is talking about him I always feel the need to stick up for him for some reason i dont no why?. I resent him for the fact that he has gone on to have another 2 children with another women and they are paid for, but for me no birthday or christmas presents in 10 years and it hurts so much.
When we moved abroad my mum and dad me and the rest of the family I settled in really well then two years later he wanted to come back we came back but he never returned…..and now I hate where I am living I want to go back ..sometimes I miss him giving me hugs like when i was little but other times there is this red mist what comes over and I just want to kill him and tell his other 2 kids about how he really is. It’s so complicated many of imes I have cried myself to sleep over it.
I dont no what to do my mum as offered me to get back in contact with him because she as seen how upset I have been over it all. But i really dont no what to do?? if i do decide to get in contact with him he might never let me be free?? so I am stuck basicly!!!
I hope my complicated life sorts it’s self out in the end!!!!.
Depends on what you needs are: for some people it’s best to never talk to their father again, others (like me) get over the rejection if they _meet_ their father again (meet him again after 12 years, not much talking about the past, but at least getting back in touch). And now that we did, I don’t feel any need at ALL EVER to talk to him. I’m over him. If he dies, I’ll be able to go to his funeral without a sense of having missed out the chance to reconcile.
im so happy i found this…i thought it was just a normal teenage thing to go through…to hate your parents(well…your dad really)…but after reading this and realizing that there ARE reasons to hate my dad i feel..not releaved..oh i dont know what really. i absolutly hate him. i come home every day from school being told i am a worthless sonofabitch who doesnt help the family. even though i take college level classes and get high marks and even translated for my dad when we were in france! i do chores every day around the house and yet nothing i ever do is enough. like just now when i was doing english homework and doing the laundry at the same time he took my door off its hinges because i wanted to finish writing a paragraph and let the laundry sit for two minutes. i go to bed crying every night because of the way he yells at me. i dont think i could wish death on anyone…although i would love for someone to find out and to let him go to jail. its more verbal then physical abuse although when i was little he used to beat me with his belt. all i can do is dream of the time when i go FARR away from my house (like..france for instance), and take it one day at a time. but only two more years of this crap…then im free.
and for everyone else out there who wants to escape their dads..just work hard and it will work out. if your a kid, teenager or adult, life flies by and everything happens for a reason. dont give up hope
My dad is such a bitch, its not even funny! He yells at me, whenever, whatever, however i am doing anything! NOT JOKING!!! i wish my mom will stop trying to make up with him and just get someone else! he quit his job, so now he is worthlessssss! fucking kill him!
My father…. isn’t my dad. There fortunatly is a difference. I have not seen my biological father in 13 years. He was emotionaly and physically abusive to my mother. He has recently contacted me in hopes to rekindle that “father/daughter bond”….. but there isn’t one, there never was one, and there will never be one. He may not have right out chose to leave me and never see me again, but his stupid actions, which he chose to do, lead to that consiquence. He should take the punishment of never knowing his children. Because I am a hell of a lot better off without him. I have a dad, a fatherfigure, who took me to baseball games, taught me how to drive my first car, scared off my first boyfriend (lol). I don’t need my sperm donor…. He can go to hell where he belongs. If beating my mom was ok to you, well heck, I guess me never forgiving your ass for your stupidity is ok too…..
well i hate my fucking father because he always treats me like shit and he never like me never in the world. i wish he just could leave and never come back he makes all of our lives mislabel. this ***** always screams at me for no reason and really teats me like shit i dead ass wish he could fucking leave already nobody like him and that the only 1 he cares about is his little 2 fucking kids i wish they all could go to hell with him
I hate my dad so much he kicked me out the house just because I got a lip piercing!! Also he use to hit me everyday of my life!
My mom was on vacation when he kicked me out nd now I’m running out of cash nd he doesn’t even help me. I hate him so much. He left when I was born. Now he thinks he can just come back in my life.
i have never hated some one so much in my fucking life!!!!!!!
he is ill and i hope he dies in his fuckin sleep and roots in helll the fucki man whore …
i actually wanna eghhh kill him i have never hated some one theres no words for it any more…..
My dad hates my and my mom but loves my little sis and she can do no wrong in his eyes. And he sits on the comp 24-7 and looks at trucks to buy. Even though we cant afford them. It drives me insane. Cuz I do school on the comp and he wont ever let me on it to it. SO, I get further and further behind.
OMG!! I hate my dad more than anything to! I hope he comittes suicide!(probbaly will someday) He just cares about himself and says here just because he gets everything free from my mother. He yells and hits me and my brother and my mother. He also quiet his job so now he can die in HELL!!! Maybe we should tell someone soon about this, but I don’t want to. Or maybe just explode next time he even looks at you. Or just start crying infront of your mother and tell her how much he is bothering you. Or you could just avoid him by staying out of the house all day long. Or just get a tharapist. P.S I hate my dad so much I just call him by his real name(BOB).
*new york*
I love my dad. Obviously he has never bought you a brand new car. Boohoo.
When I was 4 or 6 maybe my dad used to rape my mom in front of me. He was drunk and I was too scared of the dark to stay away. He’d press play on tapes of cartoons in the living room and it was like he thought I wasnt even there. He’d look towards the hallway to the bedroom and laugh and then go back in there. But I was too afraid to stay out alone in the living room so Id have to go back with him because I was scared. And itd just continue with me on the bed because I was 6 and afraid. And then shed call the police and theyd come and take pictures of her bruises and I remember the police were very nice to me and it just seemed normal. But she never pressed charges. Im guessing because she couldnt afford a house payment on her own. And that was just the way it was. And hed go into tantrums where hed destroy things and wed go stay at one of my moms friends for the night. One night he pushed me and my mom divorced him after that. I remember waking up in her bed saying whens dad coming home and she said he wasnt coming home anymore and I said ok. Just like that. Didnt care. And after that Id stay with him on weekends and he was so nice to me. He really always was. When I was 9 Id sneak to call him on Sunday nights and my mom would get mad because I was up past my bed time. My mom was always good about that; realizing that he was my dad and he’d never harm me. Then I turned 13 and would go over to his house for the next 3 years to get high with tons of people because he let me do whatever I wanted. Then when I was 16 I was on mescaline and he was drunk and I took a metal pole of some kind that was around and beat the shit out of him while my friends screamed at me to stop. That was a good night. When I was 16 I was charged with murder. Seperate and long story. I was allowed to call both of my parents. I called him crying and after he slurred about “dont you fuckin worry!” and I could tell he didnt realize what was going on, terrified, fuckin terrified, and desperate to talk to any family, I told him I had to go, although I didnt. That was about the last time I talked to my dad. Ive never talked to my mom about. Ive never talked to anyone else about it. But when someone says to me “You should really have a relationship with your dad”, that really pisses me off.
Guy guys guys, and especailly those who Have mentiond praying and God.
Hate or no hate, still your dad. I can understand issues you have, I can even empathise. But hatred will get you nowhere, all it will do is hurt yourself and manafest in your own life, effecting your relationships etc.
For some of us looking at things from you dad’s perspective might actually clear some things up.
For the majority of us, we have every reason to hate them. but how does that make us better then them? those lieing, cheating, dispicable men. We’re better.
And those praying for deliverance, remember, God calls us to love our enemies.
Not what you want to hear, but, I had to say it.
I fucking hate my asshole of a father! every1 of my birthdays hes been in jail and my mom wont leave him! AAAAGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!
and on top of what i just said, my dad quit his job and is spending all of the money my mom works really hard to mak on booze!!! be barly have enough to by food, let alone afford our home, i just hope someday that fast bastard get what he fucking deserves
I hate my dad.. I just want to kill him, he is such an instagator.. Always starting stuff. Noone on my moms side even likes him. He sits his dumb ass in front of a TV he can’t even afford allll day like common get a damn life.. And he don’t pay rent and whatnot I’m like, you can, get your ass outta here your’e not a resident go find your own place w/ ya welfare disability government money shit. And he says i need him.. Oh Puh-Lease.
i hate my dad for everything. i look at most people and they dONt have to worry about this kind of things. their life is normal. they get along with their parents, and i feel bad because i guess I dONt know what its like to have a real dad. i hate him. i am tired of people telling me to just deal with it and iM tired of not being able to do anything about it. iM only 13 and I CANt wait to be 18 so I can finally move out and never see his fkin face again. I CANt stop saying I hate him. I just wish I could get out of this. I CANt stand coming home from school and seeing him. I dONt like complaining about this because I know other people have way worse problems than me but iM using this blog comment to express myself because I CANt really do it anywhere else. He has ruined everything good in my life. And if I cry, to him thats wrong. He used to hit my mom, he dOESNt anymore because my mom called the cops on him about 3 years ago. They took us to a shelter. We called to tell ….. I dONt remember. The thing is he was saying that if we didNt go back he would take all of the pills in the house. He is an alcoholic. When he got drunk back in his moms house in Mexico. We used to always have to take care of him like a baby and I was only 4. I used to love him because I didNt realize what he was doing but now I think back and I know that he has always been a fkin maniac. I hate him. I have so much fun at school, but when I come home he always makes me cry and ruins everything for me. He makes me sit down and asks me why I dONt love him and I have to say I do or else he will hit me and lock me in my room for days if iM on vacation. He thinks I should love him because he bought me a computer and some other stuff. He has mental problems I think and I guess he has made me have mental problems too. He said he is going to take me to the psychologist so I can understand how I am just crazy. When he asks me questions about why I never want to be with him I try to respond n he tells me to just shut dah fuk up. One time my lil brother came home 40 minutes late and I know he ShOUldNt have but my dad went too far with it. My brother had to lock himself in the bathroom because my dad had a knife n his belt n he was probably going to whoop him n then maybe stab him. I wuz so scared. I had a phone and I was threatning to call the police but he told me to drop the phone on the bed or he wouldn’t be responsible for what would happen. So I did. I went against the wall and cried because thats all I could do. His eyes were red. I hate him. He went to my school and told a social worker that there was something wrong with me and that I didNt love him and didNt wnt to eat with him. Why do you think I dONt even want to see him?!?!? The worst thing is that my mom is an illegal immigrant so she CANt work. She dOESNt speak english, and she can drive but she won’t drive very far. I wish I could work and make money so we could just leave my dad and never see him again. Also when I was about to be born he told my mom that I wasn’t his child that he wouldn’t pay for anthing. He makes up stuff about my mom like that she’s a prostitute, which is 100% WRONG!!!! He blames my mom for eveything. He even blamed her for the time he accidentally cut part of two or three fingers off when using a machine at work. My mom wasn’t even there!! How could it be her fault?!? One time I caught him in my restroom snorting some white powder thing. I didNt know what it was,but now I do and I hate him, he won’t let me go anywhere. He just dOESNt care about anthing. He gets enough money so I have to pay for my school lunch, but he dOESNt give me money. This is just horrible and if I tell people like my friends, they won’t understand. I just want to get this over with. I try to ignore that iM living like this. I CANt wait to be 18. Its taking forver. iM so glad I found this blog so I can get this out of me.
Yo, my dad is the biggest bitch-ass bastard that ever lived. not only was he cheating on my mom, he was a mommas boy too. he never sided with my mom, he always went against her. Not only that he also used to hurt us and my mom. he once even threw my brother across the room because he was frustrated. now that my parents are divorced he wants to try and reconnect with us when we never had a connection to begin with us to begin with and there sending us to some bitch ass lady to connect us with him.news flash bich! there never was a connection we all hate the sorry ass mother fucker who hurt my grandma. what kind of guy hurts a 70-year old lady? the bitch ass kind thats who, and the biggest problem is he wont leave us alone even thouh we keep telling the stupid counsler what a asshole he is but she still wants to connect us with or father, the guy has been arrested twice for crying out loud! thats the kind of guy u want us to connect with?! i wish my dad would just get cancer again and die this time!
for real tho, thank god this thread is here…. i thought i was only one of a very few number of people who hated their dad this much…
i HATE him. The only reason I ever cry…. is becuz of him. I don’t even cry during sad movies, becuz i feel like i’m so immune to emotions now. He’s the one who made me this immune to everything around me. I can’t stand to be around him or near him or even see him. He is a fucking asshole who thinks he knows everything and tries to control everyone around him (from me to my grandmother…) so that everything/everyone is and acts exactly according to wat he deems as the “right way” ….. wth?!?
I have ran away from home, but I couldnt stand leaving my mom behind. Same as many of you, we depend on him for money (even tho my mom makes more than he does…)
He is crazy and has mood swings that are worse than a pregnant woman. He does whatever he feels like doing no matter what the consequences… and he doesn’t even try to control his anger…. He’s an unreasonable son of a bitch who should’ve never been brought into this world and make so many people this miserable.
wow.. that is the exact same as me. never cry.. only ever coz of him, he tries to control everythng, i have th nicest mum in the world bt my dad is a faggot. fuck all those fathers who are assholes!
so i hate my dad with a passion he lashes out on everyone for no reason at all and its getting very old i wanna punch him in his fucking face and stab him. too bad we used to have a shit load of money then he blew it all and is a waste of life and now i hate him i’m so thankful i get to go to college soon and when i get older i never want to see his ugly face again!
my dad is a fucking asshole. he is abusive and drunk 24/7. he takes the shit out of me whenever hes home and is such a faggot to my mum who is the nicest person on this earth. the only person he ever thinks about is himself. he is a control freak and the best thing to happen to me would be if my mum divorces and for him to fuckoff elsewhere! which will never happen, but one can dream. i hate my life.
wow i thought i was the only unlucky one with a fukin dad but looks like i may b wrong. all these days i thought there was something wrong with me until the dozens of mental stupid fathers have reached my attention. god. my dad is 100 times worse then all urs. he is a fuking bastard and all the bad wrds in the wrld
Like many others here… i also hate my dad for numbers of reasons.
To start off he was a very abusive person, because one day.. i could NEVER forget… he got mad at me for something really fucking not worth fighting/arguing about and this is what he did: locked me up in the bathroom and beat the shit out of me while he says to me that hes the fucking devil… DUDE that traumatized me since now.. even 5+ years since that day.. i could never get it out of my mind that my dad would do such a thing. Even when my mother/grandmother was there to say that what he was doing was wrong… and he should change.. no… he still is the same ol devil fuck he is today and still thinks hes RIGHT about everything. Funny thing though, i forgive for all of what he has done.
But honestly here, through rough times, through pointless arguments/fights, through hate & anger… he will always be my father and maybe at this moment I really would like to sock him in the face… (did before.. felt so good)
but once i’m older i would wish that things would change for the better and hopefully after i get out of college.. get a life.. and a job years later.. I would get back my dad that i used to laugh with everyday when i was young.
Ok, my Dad was always nice to me when i was younger, however with time he just seems more relluctant to have at go at me, my sister or my mum at any givin moment, at any given oppertunity, i used to have great respect for him, but now i would rather spend time with people that i hate that be in any form of contact with the egotistical bastard. This just my be a phase, but then it has been for the past 6 years, so i dont know what to think really
hey um i dont really like my dad either he really knows how to get on my nerves and does things that just make me want to just get rid of him as soon as possible.
he recently came back from visiting his country, and its only been a few days but he is already getting on my nerves and i cant take living with him anymore. he does things that just no one in my family can bare and no one wants him in the house. he has no faith or trust in me and he is disgusting, everything just goes on. its unbaring and im ready to do what i can to get rid of him. i mean it hasnt even been a week. this man needs to go somewhere far far away from me where i dont ever hear or see him ever again.
but the thing is i feel bad. i feel bad when i say these things even though they r true because no matter what he is still my father whether he loves me or not, and i dont want to treat someone that way. so im stuck between two things my feelings and how i project them.