I’m in a little bit of a dilemma at the moment. It’s very simple. I currently live in a city that I pretty much dislike (London), and that I can’t see myself ever feeling truly happy/at home in. I’m staying with a friend at the moment but would probably have to get my own flatshare or studio flat soon (costing £££, seeing that it’s London). Actually I wouldn’t want to go back to a flatshare! The whole point about my current situation is that I desperately need my own space.
However, my job is really great down here! I’m enjoying it and can see myself staying there for a long time – definitely a few years (I stayed in my last job for 5 years and I quite like the security that it gives both myself and my employer).
So, in one corner, you have:
- GREAT job
- SHITTY home (potentially some really expensive, tiny studio flat)
- SHITTY city
On the other hand, in Edinburgh, I have a really great 2-bedroom council flat with garden. It’s got all my stuff in it, and my ‘identity’ is iterated on a daily basis (loads of books, flat is decorated in my style, clean and tidy, etc.). Apart from the flat, I also really like love Edinburgh. It’s the most beautiful place I’ve ever lived in, and the only place I want to grow old in.
I.e. in the other corner:
- Potentially SHITTY job (not satisfying, not challenging, hating colleagues etc. –> great unhappiness)
- GREAT home
- GREAT city
There just doesn’t seem to be any easy solution. You could argue, of course, that the home/city are more important than job, to which I agree to some extent. However, how many people really enjoy their jobs, and are happy and satisfied with it? To be honest, I don’t know anyone, apart from anaj who now feels the love in her new job. Not sure if she felt the same sort of love in her old job. Finding the right job is a bit like finding the right relationship – it’s damn hard.
Is it worth giving up a job I love for a city I love?