Playing around with dating sites with the new BF B. (we both like just playing around with online stuff and taking the p1ss) got us talking (or rather, got him mentioning) mail-order brides. Now, I was aware of course that this kind of thing exists and in fact, as a teenager my uncle once got a woman from the Philippines flown in (yes! really…) and me and my sister had to translate letters at the start of their correspondence.
How does it work? The idea is that these ‘brides’ want to get away from the poverty they live in and they need a visa. The men, on the other hand, can’t find a girlfriend in their own country (for various reasons: they may be ugly or shy, or, they may seek more traditionally ‘submissive’ females that tend to all their men’s needs incl. sexual which fortunately are not so common any more in our Western societies).
Thus, mail-order brides will marry the men, come to the Western country, get the Visa, and stay with them for as long as is required (early divorce may result in their losing their status and having to go back). The problem being of course that the men will have considerable power over the woman while they have to remain married. E.g. they can have sex on tap and can get the woman to do all sorts of things (in theory! in practice, of course if the men are interested in the person and get to love them, they should treat them equally if they don’t want her to leave him once she no longer needs him).
Speaking to the BF, I asked whether men would do this sort of thing, i.e. abuse the power they have in these first years, and he said that too right they would.
There again, it is really a market transaction. After all, men have to pay the agency to ‘get’ their bride. They ‘buy’ her as it were, and may incorrectly assume that because of this, the bride has to be docile and his property and in effect, a prostitute. Would I do this sort of thing if I was a woman desperate to get away from my home country?
Yes.