Muttertag in Deutschland

A Schwarzwälder Kirschtorte (Black Forest gateau)Image via Wikipedia

Today was ‘Muttertag’ (mother’s day) in Germany. I had originally planned to send my mum a card as well as flowers, and had even bought a card back at the British Mother’s Day some time in March.

I didn’t send anything in the post, however: I couldn’t remember her precise address :P

So, all she got was a phone call - but she was very happy about that (shocked/happy/surprised). I hadn’t phoned her on Muttertag in the last 10 years or so (I never cared enough, and only as I get older I realise how much she went through and how much I owe to her)

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How to Get a Job that You Like

I’ve miraculously ended up with a job that I like. Why miraculously? Because I started late, and for ages didn’t know what it is I actually wanted to do.

Here are a few tips to help you find your dream job.

1. Don’t work for long periods of time in a job that you don’t like

This is a pretty obvious one. It’s about building your CV and experience, and understanding that every job doesn’t just give you money but also the foundations upon which your professional life is likely to develop. It’s a bit of a catch-22 insomuch as, if you fall into a job that you don’t like that much, and end up doing it for a period of time (say, 3 years), that’s what you’ve got on your CV.

Example: I went to London when I was 19 and stayed there for a year working as an independent living personal assistant for disabled women (also called a ‘carer’ or ‘care assistant’ in less politically correct terminology). When I went back to Germany, I continued doing a similar job part-time to support my studies, and even worked in an old people’s home for a year. Thus, all my experience was from a field that I wasn’t remotely interested in pursuing after my degree.

It took me until I was 27 or 28 to find a part-time job, still supporting my studies (a PhD by this time), that was actually relevant not only to my degree but everything that has happened professionally since.

On my CV these days, I completely omit all work I did within a social care environment, and many people may not know that I worked as a ‘carer’, albeit mostly part-time and alongside my studies, for roughly 7 years.

2. If your job isn’t relevant to your CV and your aspirations, engage in activities that are

There’s no harm in working in a job that you don’t like and that is merely about earning money, as long as you can simultaneously engage in activities that ARE relevant, thus building up your CV. The most obvious example is education. Many students earn a living working behind a bar, but I’m sure few go on to forge a career in the hospitality industry. If you don’t study, engage in interests relating to your professional ambition. Examples would be volunteering for an organisation, or, if you want to become a graphic designer, use all your spare time to teach yourself software and creating a portfolio, taking on projects for friends or charity free of charge.

3. Always do the best in any job, no matter whether you like it or not

When I was working in the old people’s home, I was one of the most efficient, fastest, dedicated, and hard-working students there. The job included dressing and washing people, emptying colostomy bags, changing nappies, assisting with eating, and so forth. It was very demanding, with a very early start (I had to get up at 3.30AM to travel there, for a 6AM start), and my colleagues were small-minded and incredibly dull (I was reading Kristeva’s The Revolution of Poetic Language at the time, and Judith Butler’s Bodies that Matter). It was very difficult, but at the same time I relished doing the job properly. I left after a year.

4. Once you know what you want to do, go for it

I fell into marketing by accident, via online moderation and then as a freelance seeder (= viral marketing). I don’t have any qualifications in marketing, have never studied it, and a year ago would never have had a chance by applying for a marketing job via the ‘normal route’ (i.e. job ads in newspapers, online, etc.). People would simply have looked at my CV, thought me as a ‘professional student’ who has spent far too many years at Universities, with little real-life and real work experience (in terms of 9-5, office job). However, once I got in there by accident, and got a taste for it, I knew I wanted to work in marketing or advertising as a ‘dream job’ (= with high levels of job satisfaction). Thus, I started applying for good jobs in that area, with my professional experience in marketing only just under a year.

5. Start at the bottom if necessary

In most of the jobs that I’ve done that had ‘career progression’ opportunities, I was offered them pretty quickly after joining (in the crucial freelance job as seeder, I was offered double pay and a standard 16-20h a week about 2 months after I started, and a full-time position 3 months thereafter). I.e. it doesn’t matter if you start at the bottom, for relatively little money. If you’re good, people will recognise it and you can progress pretty quickly. Thus, you can ‘jump’ a few stages of your career without a massive CV with loads of experience in the area.

The only two adversities to this:

a. you have financial commitments that mean you can’t possibly start from the bottom

b. you work in the public sector or in another heavily regulated sector. I got my ‘big break’ in the private sector and a chaotic, unregulated small agency.

6. Sell yourself - Be confident - Know what you want

Don’t be afraid. Don’t be too docile. Many people in the workplace, particularly in my new workplace, are quite happy to accept the status quo. They accept shitty computers, rubbish strategies, and high prices quoted by people who they think have authority on the subject matter. I don’t mean to advise to be a rebel and challenge authority in a destructive manner. What I’m advising is to stand out a bit, making your voice heard, and be visible so that people know who you are. This applies to any professional environment - be it your dream job or some rubbish job, as well as when attending job interviews. Generate a professionally confident persona that knows what s/he’s talking about. Don’t be too friendly, approachable, or laid-back.

7. Make sure your CV is spot-on

There mustn’t be any errors or spelling/grammar mistakes on your CV, especially, if you’re applying for a professional job involving written communication of any kind (be it emails, reports, strategies, etc.). I used to recruit in my past job, and when you have 100 applicants for, say, 3 positions, you eliminate those with errors straight away (that’s what the delete button is for). While other recruiters may not be as harsh as myself, submitting a CV with errors of any sort makes a candidate look either careless, or stupid. With so much competition, the basics need to be right.

I was going to write another 3 points, to make up 10, but I can’t be bothered! The post is too long as it is :P .

Give NOW to Burma Cyclone Survivors

after nargis_05052008Image by TZA via Flickr

I was shocked this week by the Burmese government not letting aid workers and aid get through to the survivors of the horrible cyclone disaster in Burma.

While I do not normally give to regular media-propagated charity (Comic Relief and such), I’m very much in favour of HELPING THEM as much as poss.

The DEC (Disaster Emergency Committee) is a good point to give to - I’ve done it before (can’t remember in what context!) so they’ve emailed me today. PLEASE GIVE THEM A BIT OF MONEY, doesn’t matter how much. It’s EASY.

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Getting my Boss’ Job - Strategy (1)

Whenever I make another conscious move to iterate myself as my boss’ successor, I’ll blog about it. Seeing that this blog is anonymous, I’ve got the freedom to do so :P

The overall strategy is simple: iterating lenina as the boss’ natural successor before the position is even advertised. Preparation also includes reading the JD (all JDs are kept on the intranet) as well as the internal application form, and maybe even have a first go at filling it in.

On the other hand, after looking a bit more at the overall picture, I’m not so sure now that I want to apply. Like anaj said in a comment, it looks like it’ll be more responsibility, more stress, for nothing much in return (other than a bit of power/influence). The money won’t be much more at all - it might even be the same that I’m getting right now.

So, I’ve decided to ’step in’ for my boss and take on all her responsibilities (= the iteration I was talking about), and by doing so, I’ll have a better idea of what’s involved/whether it’s ‘worth’ it. Either way, ’stepping in’ won’t really cause any harm - quite the opposite. It’ll be a great opportunity and learning curve, for me to get a deep understanding while at the same time helping out my team/the company (there is a lot of stuff to do, and someone’s got to do it. I wouldn’t trust anyone, other than my colleague, to do it right).

I don’t know yet whether or not I will indeed apply. I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it :P

Work is Getting More Stressful

After having a very easy first couple of months, my job is now getting a bit more stressful. The more I know and learn, the more I find holes, things not being done properly, and basically a lot of things that my boss (soon to be my former boss) neglected. Since I seem to have a mild form of OCD, the absence of structure rather gets to me and I want to impose order, ’sort it out’, ‘do things right’.

My boss has been absent mentally and physically for much of the time, and I feel it’s all my responsibility. Which it probably isn’t. However, I want to push myself and get things under control before I go on holiday (next Thursday; away for 2 weeks! Yay!!). There, I’ll have plenty of distance to the job, and I can reflect whether or not I do want to apply for my former boss’ when I return.

It would be more stressful/more responsibility, for hardly any more money at all. I know I could do it, but it would not be the easiest option, given what I’m learning just now.

Edinburgh Castle

I had a very nice week-end, peaceful it was too. Yesterday, the weather was gorgeous - we cycled to the Castle and went in to see it. At the entrance, it reads ‘Nemo Me Impune Lacessit‘ - which is the motto of the order of the thistle. This is what I’m planning to get with my next tattoo (as blogged about previously).

It looks very nice - though the castle isn’t very historic (well it’s difficult to get me excited after seeing the Mousa Broch from 1000 BC!

Here’s the Castle’s entrance.

Nemo me impune lacessit

The Suicide that Never Was

For the last 7 months, I thought that someone I knew (on the periphery of ‘knowing’) up here in Edinburgh had killed himself. I even blogged about it here.

Only I found out today that it’s not actually true! It was someone’s sister, who was already disabled (with MS), that had died of natural causes.

How that got turned into a ‘dramatic’ story (guy kills himself over custody of his child) I do not know.

Though by knowing the people involved in creating/passing on this ’story’, I have a fair idea how it happened.

My Flat is Worth £110000

apparently. Seeing that I have the new right to buy with a new, maximum discount of £15000, they have made me an offer to buy my flat off them for £95000 (i.e. current market value according to them, minus discount).

I wasn’t that much off the mark with my guess they would evaluate it at £100000, then. The 10K more is understandable, if you consider for instance that my neighbour sold her flat just in January for £131000 (21K more than what they evaluated mine! Though mine has more potential, with an attic that can in theory be converted etc., which hers didn’t have).

Overall, then, I’m quite chuffed. I now have 2 months to accept the offer (I think) - I haven’t read the letter and various attachments properly yet as my BF is here so I haven’t had much time for this kind of thing.

Either way, I definitely want to buy it. It’s just a matter of sorting everything out, and if I’m unlucky, I may not be able to buy it straight away as I need to solve some other financial business first. But I’m working on it, and normally when I set myself a goal, I achieve it :)

My Friend is Pregnant!

lenina will be an auntie :P  - that’s the text I received yesterday from my dear friends D&J. We’re going to see them tonight, and I’ll make sure I’ll be bringing a bottle of champagne and some flowers.

J. has been ‘broody’ for years, and she must be absolutely over the moon. Of course, this also means life will change, and maybe our friendship will too. After all, it is a well reported fact that motherhood changes a family, making it centre around the needs of the little one. Topics of conversation change too, and the interest, at least in the first few years, will narrowly focus almost exclusively on the baby and everything related to it.

I’m not sure how I’ll fit in to that - I quite fancy myself looking after the baby some week-ends, once J. is back at work (she works in retail and does a lot of week-ends, while I work Mon-Fri). The only problem is I am quite non-maternal. I guess if you had to put a gender on it, I’d see myself more as some kind of ‘uncle’ figure - trying to be a good influence on the kid without too much of the caring, emotional, maternal stuff.

But we’ll see - the baby isn’t here yet! And in any case, we’ll have to see what happens. Once they’re a family with a young baby, their priorities might change, and the nature of our friendship might alter and become something else. Either way, I’m delighted  :)

My Boss is Leaving so…

Cropped screenshot of Marlene Dietrich from the trailer for the film Stage FrightImage via Wikipedia

My boss announced yesterday that she was leaving. Now, the timing is not so good because I had already planned I was going to go for (and get) her job when she does. Only I wanted to do it in 1-2 years’ time and not now! I’ve only been in my new job for over 2 months.

The problem is that, if I don’t go for the job now, there’s no chance her position will become vacant again for ages. I know for a fact that a colleague of mine, who’s currently on a temporary contract until Oct 08 (maternity cover), really wants a permanent position, and he’s already told me he’s going apply for her job.

I.e. if I don’t go for it and he gets it, that’s it. The position will be gone, pretty much forever (he’s a fair bit older than me and looking to settle down somewhere for good).

Thus, while it’s not an ideal situation, and I’m not even sure I will be considered for the position due to my being new, I’ve got no choice - I’ve got to go for it. Hence I’ve started preparing for it psychologically and strategically.

Psychologically:

I’ve bought some new suits today, and a briefcase. I want to look 100% professional and smart to every last detail. We used to call this ‘power-dressing’. I fancy myself as some kind of Marlene Dietrich - type - dressing more masculine, thus commanding respect and conveying authority.

I’m already leading on various issues and in meetings often lead the discussion constructively and productively (my colleagues are all good at their job but are more passive, and don’t put forward many ideas or constructive suggestions - I don’t understand why, maybe it’s because they are a bit younger than me, or maybe because their position and team structure dictates that. I, on the other hand, have never been fully socialised into an office structure so I don’t really know ‘my place’ - one advantage of doing a PhD and having to fully rely on yourself).

Strategically:

I need to make sure I close any gaps that I have, and gain more knowledge and fuller understanding of our brand plans and overall strategy over the next month.

I’m also currently reading a book on online marketing, to ensure I’m up to scratch with all the lingo and have a comprehensive, full understanding, thus being able to authoritatively talk about our strategy in my interview presentation.

I’ll be taking over a lot of responsibilities of my boss over the next couple of weeks, and my strategy is in effect to already work in the role and lead the team by the time of my application, so that it ‘makes sense’ for them to give me the job.

Finally, I will be proofreading my consultancy project that I did in my previous job, and submit it as part of my application. With that, I want to demonstrate that, despite having only been there for 2 months, I have the vision and ability to lead my team and to take our work to the next level (which is needed).

I feel a bit apprehensive about competing with my colleague for the job. I really like him and we get on well, and if he can’t secure a permanent position by October he’s going to be fucked (while I already have a permanent position). On the other hand, I can’t step back just because I like him. I would relish the opportunity to lead a team, and to be the boss. I just want to be able to have considerable influence on the direction we’re taking, as I know I would be the best person to do so.

If I don’t get it, that’s not too bad either. Less responsibility, easier, nearly the same money, and I can work on my side projects (I currently have one and possibly another side project, both of which will generate additional income and experience/CV-relevant stuff). I.e. either way things are going to continue to develop and improve, and keep lenina’s brain active.